30 Things you Need to Know on Becoming 30

This first post has 3 parts. Over the next 3 posts, I will share with you 30 things you need to know for resilient living. First, I’ll let you in on 5 fun facts about me, then proceed to give short excerpts of lessons I’ve learned so far. If there’s anything, in particular, you’d like me to talk about, let me know in the comment section. Let’s get right to it with the first 10 (before I procrastinate again).

1. I’m a Christian. Yas! Jesus and I are in a committed relationship, and he’s the most faithful partner ever! He’s been with me through every last one of my storms and brought me through victoriously on so many fronts that I cannot tell it all.
2. I love to eat! I’m always trying new recipes (some of which I will be sharing), and I adore trying the food at new eateries. I’m also low-key into health and fitness, but I’m no expert; I can share what worked for me and what didn’t for informational purposes only.
3. I’ve been in love with fashion since I knew myself. It’s literally the most fun way to self-express without saying a word. Oddly, I’ve found that it’s an excellent conversation starter when I meet new people. I don’t do a lot of small talk, but I can’t shut up once we find a topic of interest. I’m an introvert (surprising, huh?), and sometimes I’m shy. Many people think I’m extroverted, so they are shocked when I reveal this fact.
4. Growing up, hairdressing/styling was my dream job. I’ve tried almost every hairstyle in the book! However, I’m coming away from doing hair for others because the long stand takes a toll on my body. I still love doing hair, and there was a point where I found it to be the most satisfying and relaxing activity that I could do morning, noon, and night without getting tired of it.
5. I love music, and I love to sing. It keeps me grounded when going through my downs, ups, and in-betweens. And Yes, I still get nervous every time I get on stage. I’m thinking about doing something more with my gift from God, but we will see about that in the future.
   Enough about me. Now I will get down to other business.
6. When you’re going through what you’re going through, whether it is a high time or a low time in the good or the bad, it is imperative to remember one thing: You are not the only one.” For there is nothing new under the sun…” Somebody has gone through this before. Someone has pulled all the way through it, and so can you. You are not the first, and neither are you the last to experience what you are experiencing. The difference you can make lies within the wisdom to make the right decisions to determine the outcome. It will be okay, and you will look back and marvel at your remarkable resilience.
7. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission (Eleanor Roosevelt), consciously or unconsciously. Practicing the art of being confident and content with my lot and giving myself the grace to reveal my worth (I was bought with royal blood, the blood of a King). I can see people and appreciate their happiness, beauty, talents, and gifts and celebrate them as my sister or brother in the Kingdom. It’s much better to rise up and feel happy for others than to shrink back and criticize. #heartcheckmoment
8. It’s okay to be hurt, grieve, and take a step back and assess the situation and yourself. When moving forward, do not make ‘hurt-based’ decisions, do not make ‘fear-based’ decisions, and do not make ‘revenge-based’ decisions. Learn how to check your heart before you move forward. Then act from a place of love and care, first for yourself, then for others.
9. As you grow older, your circle of friends will get smaller, you will outgrow childhood friends, some college friends, and even some family members, and that’s okay. Don’t make it awkward by forcing it. Not everyone is meant to be a lifetime friend; yes, you can make new friends as an adult. Those friendships can be more fulfilling because you are more resolute in who you are as a person, and the value system is more fully developed. You know what will and won’t fly. In other words, you can better choose friends who align with your values and who will push you to the fullest potential of who you are becoming.
10. Taking the high road is hard but worth it. It takes a lot of strength to not react when things go awry. However, I’ve come to realize that the way that I react is a reflection of me and who I represent; I cannot control how others behave, neither am I in control of the type of fruit their heart bears, but what I have full authority over, is my ability to make allowances for others errs, and in turn develop my character into being a graceful, harmonious individual who truly stands on the side of wisdom and righteousness, only made possible through the power of the Holy Spirit.

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